If you see a group picture of you and your friend. What is the first thing you notice ? Is it How you look? Is your hair alright? Is your smile just the way it should be? if your answer is yes then it’s not just you. Everybody looks at themselves only. The most frequently used word is the pronoun I.
People are more interested in themselves than they are in any body else. So if you want to make friends and win hearts ,you have to be interested in other’s life.
This is an important law- ‘Always make the other person feel important’.
The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.
The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
Almost everyone considers themselves very important and life of so many people could probably change if only someone would make them feel important.
Once, I saw a girl who was getting irritated because of the rush in metro and because of huge bags she was carrying. And I thought of giving her a compliment on her beautiful smile. I just told her ‘you have a nice smile’ . A simple compliment from a stranger would have made her day better I guess. In the start she tried to be modest and said it’s not that nice but I knew how happy she was after listening to that.
She must have thought about that the whole day and felt important , appreciated and validated. Her bags would have turned a little lighter now.
That’s how you can change a person’s day: by just making them feel special.
Have you ever thought why dogs have so many friends and why are they loved by so many. The reason is that they are more interested in other’s life. They jump out of their skin and run so fast when they see their owner after a long day. They do everything they possibly can do and expect nothing in return but love.
similarly ,You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming interested in other people than you can in 2 years by trying to get other people interested in you.
You can work magic with philosophy of appreciation almost every day!
Thanks for reading!